too attached to someone
I’ve never been one of those people who is too attached to someone. I’m not so much attached to people, but I’m too attached to the idea of someone. We all have those people in our lives that we want to spend time with and others that we want to avoid. I think that the way we treat others is just as important as the relationship we have with them.
Its true, we all have those things in our lives that we want to love and others that we want to be loved. And, it is completely okay to have those things in our lives. But, its not okay to be in a relationship with someone (or with yourself for that matter!) that you want to be with but that you arent. Im not saying that you should never be in a relationship.
I think that we should be aware of our own attachment to someone. Its not a bad thing, but it can be a very good thing. For example, I have a friend that I’m in a relationship with. I don’t have a relationship with him, but when we spend a day together we are able to talk about a lot of things, and its a great way for me to learn about where he is at.
The thing is, though, that when we are attached to someone, that’s often the only way we can feel like we can be together. In many ways, our relationships feel more like a prison than the person we are attached to. We are so tied down that it’s hard to really make connections with anybody. It can also feel like a punishment for being in a relationship with someone.
That’s not exactly true. In relationships, the more we can be the more we can be connected to each other. Whether its a teacher, a parent, an uncle, a friend, a coworker, a sibling, a colleague, or a romantic partner. We can all relate to each other in some way.
In relationships, we are connected to each other so much that it can feel like we are more than the sum of our parts. We can have connections with each other that make up a whole and not be just a part of just a part. But it also feels like a prison that we are locked into. We are so tied down that it can actually feel like a punishment for being able to connect with someone at all.
It’s so hard to be able to connect with each other in a relationship. It seems that the reason why so many people have relationships is because they don’t want anyone else but them to know how they feel. It’s the same reason why we feel alone when we are having a panic attack. We don’t talk to anyone in our relationships. We have to be alone to feel better.
I know what you’re thinking. “No, it’s not you. It’s the way you’re feeling. You can be with someone else when you’re not attached to them.” And you’re right, it’s not you. It’s the way we feel. Its because we are afraid to be alone. We live in a society where we are so attached to someone that we cannot be ourselves. We are surrounded by people telling us how to feel and we don’t like it.
In the past, we used to think that being around people was just “being there.” But it’s not. We have to get close to people and touch them. It’s a scary experience that we never want to end.
But we can. We just need to be conscious of it and stop going into situations where we are so attached. We have to develop self-awareness and learn to not be afraid of being alone. Like when we were with our friends and talked about our lives, we all had moments where we were so attached to someone or had a desire to be with someone that we couldn’t take it. But that’s just us.