It would be easy to fall into a negative cycle where you think negatively about the changes, but there’s actually a very positive aspect to having the ability to see beyond the chaos. When life gets rough, it’s often times because we fall into a negative mode of mind. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing either. We can learn to learn from our mistakes and learn from the experience of positive change.
The first step is to not use your negative emotions to control your environment. It’s easy to think negatively about change in the external environment when you think about your own place in the world. However, if you do this, you can end up only thinking about the negative, because you only see the negative as the external reality. When you look at the positive side of change, you can see the beauty.
The positive external change we can learn from is our own positive change. This is the change that we can control, because it is a choice. When you decide to change, you have a choice to make. Some people decide to change just because they’ve decided they want to, and some people decide to change just because they think it’s the right thing to do. You can choose to change because you want to, or because you need to.
Change for me has always been about the external change. My parents had a house built in the 1960s that they sold in the early 2000s. Now its just a storage building, and the exterior is a little bland, but inside I can still see the original kitchen, dining room, and living room. One day I decided to remodel the old house, and I have never looked back since.
Changing because you think it is the right thing to do is fine and dandy, but it’s not always the best thing to choose. Sure, you could be a martyr for the good of your family, but it is not always the best thing to be. A few years ago my husband and I were building a new home. We were so excited to be going this phase of construction, and we wanted to make a huge investment.
Many people make the mistake of making a big investment in the wrong area. It is an unfortunate truth that a lot of people don’t think about the impact they have on the rest of their house after a major change.
In the same way that you can’t avoid making a mistake and not knowing how it will affect your house, you can’t avoid making a mistake and not knowing how it will affect the external environment. If you are going to make an investment you should at least make a plan to avoid making one.
This sounds a bit off, and is a bit over the top, but it’s true. Many people will jump into major changes like a home renovation or a mortgage payment without thinking about the impact they have on the rest of their house. They will make assumptions that will not be true in a few years. Even if the change is minor, they may feel like they need to make a change now to save money down the road.
In this particular situation I think we can all agree that a change is not a good idea. But when you approach a challenge with a plan to avoid making the investment (or minimize the impact) and you end up with a change, you can feel even more vulnerable and confused. This can lead to a lot of anxiety and stress.